22 May 10 Simple but Powerful Ways to Communicate with Your Autistic Child

1. Use Multi-Sensory Language: Say it, show it, and do it. Combine speech with gestures, pictures, or objects to enhance communication. For example, say “Time for bath,” while holding a towel and showing a picture of a bathtub. Repetition builds understanding.
2. Visuals Are Your Superpower: Use visual schedules, the Picture Exchange Communication System (PECS), or printed photos of daily activities, toys, and places. Visuals reduce anxiety and help your child anticipate what’s coming next.
3. Speak Less, Pause More: Keep your language simple and allow for processing time. Instead of “Let’s get ready for school now because we’re late and your shoes aren’t on,” try: “Shoes on.” Then pause. Children with processing delays may need 10–15 seconds to respond.
4. Join Your Child’s World Through Play: Get down on the floor, copy their movements, and echo their sounds. This approach, known as Intensive Interaction, fosters trust, connection, and lays a foundation for effective communication.
5. Sing Your Words: Turn routines into songs. Sing “Brush your teeth, brush your teeth” instead of just saying it. Many children with autism tend to respond more positively to rhythm and melody than to regular speech.
6. Offer Clear Choices: Instead of asking, “What do you want to eat?” try, “Do you want an apple or a banana?” Hold up the options visually. This reduces overwhelm and empowers your child to make decisions.
7. Use Objects of Reference: Give physical meaning to words. A spoon means it’s time to eat. A nappy means it’s time to change. A backpack means it’s time to leave the house. This is especially helpful for children who are sensory learners.
8. Encourage Expression Through Creativity: Let your child explore music, drawing, painting, or messy play. These creative outlets can be powerful ways for your child to express emotions, ideas, and preferences without needing to use words.
9. Create Social Stories Together: Use photos or illustrations to walk your child through daily activities. A story like “Going to the Doctor” or “Washing Hands” gives structure, reduces anxiety, and helps your child anticipate what’s next.
10. Consider AAC and Assistive Tools: AAC devices, such as GoTalk, Proloquo2Go, or even a basic laminated communication board, can give your child a voice they feel confident using. Start with core words like “want,” “more,” “stop,” “help” — and model them daily.

Remember mom’s and dad’s:  “Communicating with your autistic child might look different from how you imagined it, but it is always possible.”

If you have not yet read How to Communicate with Your Autistic Child – Even Without Words, read it now.